Negative tapes wreak havoc…….

Learning to F.L.Y.  (First Love Myself)

Living by Proverbs 3:5-6

July 3, 2016

The following is my Angela Shelton workbook week 17, June 18, 2015

Discussion:  You may hear all of your negative thought patterns telling you that you are stupid, worthless, ugly or nothing.

What negative things do you think others are saying to themselves.

     You’re Fat, You’re Lazy, No Self Control, Not very smart, Talks too much, Too Loud, You’re ugly, worthless and not worth talking to. 

What are the negative things you say to yourself inside your head? 

·        I am not good enough

·        Someone can do better

·        I am not as smart, Discerning or inspirational as others

·        I am not a good speaker

·        I care what other’s will think and I think they think I’m stupid and can’t do things very good.

·        I’m too old, I can’t do things like I used to

·        I worry that I am not doing the right thing and I question myself and wonder if what I am doing is right or good enough

·        I am insecure and people over look me, or don’t choose me because I am not good enough

·        I am the last one to be picked for a team, an after thought

·        I am too harsh and too judgmental

·        My responses are wrong or not good enough.

·        My emotions are wrong, my opinions are wrong

·        You’re fat, you’re ugly, you are unlovable

·        You are too needy

·        No one likes you

Healing Worksheet

Every single negative thing I have ever said to myself:

·        I am stupid, ugly and fat.

·        I am worthless and I will never be enough

·        I am too loud, attention seeking and I talk too much

·        I try too hard

·        I am not very smart

·        Who do I think I am doing a retreat, I will fail

·        Maybe if I just lose weight people will notice me, or think I am pretty or smart

·        How could any love me as big as I am

·        I am not just not good enough, I am a loser, a pig, crazy, clumsy, replaceable, worthless, unworthy, disgusting, insignificant, I don’t deserve love, no one cares what I have to say

·        I can’t be forgiven

·       I’m mean, judgmental, vindictive, a whore, slut, I will never amount to anything, shut down, dishonest.

·        I am not lovable

I need to let go of…..

·        All of the negative feelings and things I say to myself

·        All of the lies I tell myself, my untrue stories

·        Caring what others think about me

·        Caring about the way some people treat me

·        Self-doubt

·        Insecurity

·        Feeling sorry for myself and wanting others to feel sorry for me

·        Everything I say about myself listed above

I am holding on to…….

·        Self-doubt

·        Self-pity

·        Self-hatred

·        Caring what others think of me

·        HOPE – that I will change the negative tapes into positive truths 

I am afraid to face…….

·        How the betrayal of our best friends has really affected me and the complete absence of them in our lives

·        The betrayal, lies and gossip of leadership at church and at Discovery

·        How my parents and my relationship (or lack of) with them has affected me